Why can't we get close to people?

Have you ever said, "No, am never going back to this one person", in terms of friendship, relationship or anything? If you say no then you're lying. Conversely, have you ever been hurt or disappointed by someone to the extent that you don't know whether to keep them or cut ties? Perhaps, you'd be lying again If you say no. 

Source: google 

One way or either, we get close to anyone in terms of love or friendship. We get to know everything about them, I mean their strength, weakness, flaws and almost every details of them -don't you agree? 

So the point here is, knowing someone in a deeper way is not always fun, it's the scariest thing- why? Because we human beings are so complex and unpredictable. One way or either we always hurt each other. No matter how strong the bond is, there is no exception for the trouble we make for each other. We tend to unintentionally harm another person and perhaps they do the same. This is the law of life for what I believe. No love or friendship is secured, one day or other you get splitted because there's no fixed contentment or sadness. But I envy those people who are still holding onto each other- I mean there are some people in relationship or friendship that doesn't get separated even with tons of ups and downs and I truly envy that- why? Because most of us can't do this. When someone hurt your sentiments or disappoint you, we become whether to forgive them or cut ties with them. Hence, this undecideble decision is too hard to decide because in one way you're losing someone precious to you and in other hand, it takes alot to digest what they did and what they will do again as you're certain that this forgiveness would be taken for granted. 

There's also something else that comes with heartbreaks or betrayal. Do you wanna take a guess?

Exactly, it's the lesson. 

When somebody disappoint you, betrays you or hurts you, it can be painful but you always gain a lesson. - people show their true face and true intentions so it's must for you to prioritize genuine people. Heartbreaks and betrayal often enhance your strength and character which allows you to reflect on your worth -you'd not have been deeply hurt or betrayed if you don't agree with me. Resenting those who wronged you can weigh you down, thus it's important to forgive even if you don't reconcile with them. Most importantly, you learn to set boundaries because those closest to you can plant weeds in the garden of your mind, overshadowing the flowers of trust you carefully cultivated. However, despite the lessons learned, you still choose to make the same mistake again - wouldn't you say?